Life-Changing Resources

Here are some of the books and resources that have changed mah life. This list is constantly being updated, as I’m constantly further ensmartening myself, so please keep checking back.

Also, there are lots of other excellent resources listed in the back of my books: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks depending on what you’re looking for.

BOOKS:

GENERAL WOO-WOO

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires
by Esther and Jerry Hicks

This is an excellent starter book. Well-written and not hellishly long, it talks all about the Law of Attraction in depth and how to manifest what you want into your life.

The Freak Factor is superhigh: co-author Esther Hicks was your average housewife until she suddenly started channeling this spirit named Abraham. The book, and all her work, contains the teachings of this dude Abraham, whoever the hell he is/was, but his stuff is good AND Esther is pretty entertaining in her live recordings, although the book is more straightforward. First half is teachings; second half is to-do’s

The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
by don Miguel Ruiz

Good, short, based on the wisdom passed down from the author’s Toltec ancestors. Basically, it talks about the four things you need to do to live an awesome life: Be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best. It’s worth a read for sure as it lays out some very simple and profound truths that will absolutely change your life for the better if you live by them.

The Game of Life

The Game of Life and How to Play It
by Florence Scovel Shinn

This book constantly refers to The Bible and Jesus, but it’s easy to love whether or not you’re religious because it’s crammed full of valuable spiritual lessons and lots and lots of old-timey stories. The writing is real pedestrian and very grandmotherly, but I love the simplicity and how well the stories illustrate what she’s talking about. It’s short, to the point, and blunt, much like sitting down with an old lady who wants to give you a talking to about the way things are around here.

Oneness

Oneness
by Rasha

This book is gigantic, meaty, and super advanced. You could read one sentence and spend the rest of the week lying on the floor with your arm over your face trying to absorb it. It took me about two years to get through, but it’s the one book that I carry with me as I travel even though it weighs a ton (the rest are on my Kindle).

No matter where I open it up to, it speaks directly to what I’m going through. It’s almost creepy. I don’t recommend this book until you’re fairly well schooled in this stuff because it’s not easy reading. But I had to put it on this list because it’s one of my all-time favorites, and when you’re ready for it, it will blow your tiny mind.

The Power of Now

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
by Eckhart Tolle

If you’re new to the whole Ego (or Big Snooze) thing and really want to grasp the transformative nature of being present, this is basically the bible. It challenges you to see the world in a different way and does a great job of at helping you grasp some pretty deep theories about reality and time and perspective.

This is another one where the Freak Factor is very high: Eckhart was suicidal, all ready to do himself in and then woke up one morning all enlightened and transformed and was in such a state of bliss that he spent the next two years sitting on a park bench, playing with his lip (I’m not kidding). Then he channeled this book.

A Return to Love

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
by Marianne Williamson

This is a great starter book by Marianne Williamson. It’s basically her interpretation of “A Course in Miracles” which is a Christian-based, monster of a thing (I’ve only read parts of it) that saved her butt when she was down in the dumps.

I really love the way she writes and found this book hugely helpful back in the day. Its main message is that one should apply love to all their problems and it contains one of the best poems EVER on why you are an ass kicking individual called Our Deepest Fear. Whether or not you plan on reading this book, which I totally think you should, do a search for Our Deepest Fear right now, print it up and read it every single day. I mean it. It will make you weep with joy and newfound self-love.

INSPIRATION AND HOW-TO

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers: Reclaiming Your Power, Creativity, Brilliance, and Dreams
by Debbie Ford

This awesome book is all about how to forgive, and embrace, our dark sides. We’ve all got em, and the more we hate/judge the not so appealing parts of ourselves and others, the more miserable our lives are. This book will help you understand how we are all things – good, bad, ugly, etc – and how to enjoy life more by letting the not so pleasant stuff go. She offers waaaaaaay too many exercises in my opinion, so don’t get bogged down by them, but do read it all the way through because the information in the book is priceless.

Anatomy of the Spirit

Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing
by Caroline Myss

Another doozie of a book about how our thoughts and beliefs affect our health, medical intuitive Caroline Myss provides major insight into how we can hurt and heal ourselves through energy. She uses the Hindu Chakra System, Christianity, the Kabbalah’s Tree of Life and case studies to illustrate how mind, body and spirit are interconnected and walks us through the best ways to live a healthy life. It’s a little heady at times, but Myss is a good writer with tons of experience and it’s well worth the read if you want to wrap your noggin around this stuff.

As a Man Thinketh

As a Man Thinketh
by James Allen

This is, shockingly all about the mighty mind and how to use it to master your world.

Considering the fact that if you can really truly get that skill down, you can create the most awesome life ever, reading this book, over and over and over until it becomes second nature is time well spent. It’s another old-timey one written back in ye olde day, but it’s still extremely quotable and relevant today.

The Circle

The Circle: How the Power of a Single Wish Can Change Your Life
by Laura Day

Another excellent offering on the art of manifesting, this short but very powerful book gives you the goods step by step, outlining exercises and practices that are easy to follow in fairly basic, non-woo woo language.

I appreciated it for getting straight to the point and spending more time on telling you what to do than why. Its author is a renowned badass on the subject of intuition, so there’s some powerful stuff about connecting to your inner smartypants in here as well.

The Creative Habit

The Creative Habit: Learn It and Use It for Life
by Twyla Tharp

Written by no-nonsense, world-renowned dance choreographer Twyla Tharp, this is one of the best spankings I ever got in the old get-your-act-together department. As the title suggests, it’s all about creating good habits, which, if you do nothing else, will completely change your life for the better. Full of stories and tips and whip cracking, this is one of my favorites. Cuz she kind of scares me.

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Losing My Virginity: How I Survived, Had Fun, and Made a Fortune Doing Business My Way
by Richard Branson

This is an awesome read—I devoured the whole thing in one sitting. Richard Branson, founder of Virgin Records and Virgin Airlines, is a maniac and one of the most inspiring people on two legs as far as I’m concerned.

The book details his life from when he started his little record shop to becoming one of the most famous and radical entrepreneurs who went on to buy his own island and fly hot air balloons over the ocean in the jet stream. I would like very much to party with this guy.

 

IMPORTANT BIOGRAPHY NOTE: I’ve listed Richard Branson’s biography because it’s one of my favorites, but pretty much any biography/autobiography about the people you personally find inspiring is totally worth reading. I could list about seventy more here, but you may not find the life and accomplishments of, say, Dolly Parton or Eleanor Roosevelt, as riveting and inspiring as I do. I strongly suggest you actually take the time to read books about the people who light you up, because it’s one of the best ways to get inspired to change your life.

 

Practical Intuition

Practical Intuition
by Laura Day

Long hailed as a leading master of intuition, Laura Day has worked with everyone from high-powered business people to hippies to celebrities to financial analysts to housewives. She is the queen of showing people how to access their intuition so they can make more informed decisions and design more authentic lives. This book gives all her secrets and tried and true tips on connecting with your inner GPS via exercises and case studies.

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams
by Deepak Chopra

I’m a huge fan of not having to read too much to get the information I want, and of knowing how much I’m gonna have to do ahead of time to get where I want to go. Good old Deepak breaks achieving success down into seven, easy-to-follow steps based on spiritual principles.

This is one of my all-time favorites for its small size and profoundly potent advice. It delivers deeply spiritual and powerful information in bite-sized chunks and gives clear exercises on using it in your everyday life to achieve what you want.

There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem

There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem
by Wayne Dyer

In this book, Wayne Dyer shows how raising our frequency can be used to solve everyday problems. He draws from various spiritual traditions and the pontifications of several spiritual thought leaders to lead us through the process of making our lives a lot more pleasant and meaningful. Full of explanations, examples and exercises, this book is an excellent guide to staying in The Zone while you go about your life.

The War of Art

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles
by Steven Pressfield

Written by novelist Steven Pressfield, this is a classic for writers, musicians and artists of all kinds, including you, no matter who you are, because you are the artist creating your own life. Hence, read this thing if you want to blast past your fears and insecurities and resistance to being your biggest, badassiest self. It’s a hugely insightful, cheese-free and very enjoyable book (the guy is a real writer fer cryin out loud). He even uses some curse words here and there.

You Can Heal Your Life

You Can Heal Your Life
by Louise Hay

Louise Hay is the godmother of self-help; she was doing it way back when it still wasn’t cool, cured herself of cancer using her highly-lauded principles of self-love and now has her own empire with a publishing company and everything. This book is one of my faves, even though it’s super woo-woo, full of affirmations and general gooeyness, but in the ever-critical self-love department, it doesn’t get any better than this. The back of the book is all about the body and how all our injuries and dis-eases can be traced back to negative thought patterns. So if you break your leg, you can look it up and see that it’s because you’re scared of moving forward (or something, don’t quote me on that) and get an affirmation from Louise on how to heal yourself. I have a friend who completely cured himself of something the doctors were baffled by through reading this book and doing what it says.

29 Gifts

29 Gifts: How a Month of Giving Can Change Your Life
by Cami Walker

This book was written by a woman who was told by her mentor to give something away, every day, for twenty-nine days, to help heal herself of multiple sclerosis. The book chronicles her incredible journey and the profound effect tithing had on her life and the lives of others who’ve tried it. She started a blog to chart her journey and encouraged her followers to write in and do the same, which turned into a full-on movement, which led to this Bestselling book.

WEALTH CONSCIOUSNESS

Creating Money

Creating Money: Keys to Abundance
by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer

The title of this book is a tad misleading because it’s about so much more than money, yet since most people want to make more money, the good news is they’ll pick it up and get way more than they bargained for by reading it and doing what it says. While it does indeed teach you how to create money, it also gives clear instruction on meditation, clearing blocks, manifesting, working with energy, gaining clarity, etc. All of which contribute to manifesting money, as well as pretty much everything else, into your life.

Easy to read and follow with simple exercises and deceptively deep concepts broken down, this is an awesome starter book as well as one to always have around to provide important reminders and re-alignment.

The Science of Getting Rich

The Science of Getting Rich
by Wallace D. Wattles

The very first sentence of this book made me slam it shut and leave it untouched for years. It reads: “Whatever may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich.” Hello? How gross is that?! It offended me to my hippie core, until I understood what it was really saying and that, erm, you kind of can’t —not if you want to fully express yourself, anyway. “Rich” simply means that you have everything you need to share your gifts fully with the world and stay at the highest vibration while you do it, whatever that looks like for you. This is now easily the book I recommend to people the most, and the one I read over and over. But you have to let a lot go because it will absolutely go up your nose if you’re still working on your issues around it being OK to make money.

Think and Grow Rich

Think and Grow Rich
by Napoleon Hill

This is the other contender for the Best Wealth Consciousness Book Ever, and another old-timey one. I forgot to mention that Wallace Wattle’s book is old-timey, too, but hello, look at the guy’s name.

Anyway, Napoleon Hill interviewed the most successful businessmen at the time to gather the information for this incredible, how-to guide. I read this book over and over, too. It’s very to the point, a total ass-kicker, and breaks everything down into simple, easy-to-follow instructions. Do what he says (and really do all of it) and you will be large and in charge.

The Law of Divine Compensation

The Law of Divine Compensation: On Work, Money, and Miracles
Marianne Williamson
A beautifully written book on the spiritual side of wealth, money and profit by the ever-stellar Marianne Williamson. She is one of my faves. I demand you see her speak if you ever get the chance.

The Soul of Money

The Soul of Money: Reclaiming the Wealth of Our Inner Resources
by Lynne Twist
Written by an extremely smart smartypants, activist and fundraiser, Lynn Twist shares her fascinating take on money as gleaned from her decades working with everyone from top CEOs to tribal people who don’t even know what money is.

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth
by T. Harv Eker
Not the best written book ever, fairly selly and packed to the gills with cheese and yet, I highly recommend it. T Harv (what the hell kind of name is that anyway?) does a great job of listing off the thoughts that either lead us to financial success or financial failure.

FINDING YOUR CALLING

Callings

Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life
by Gregg Levoy

I read this and thought, “What a lovely book.” I like this guy’s voice a ton. He does an excellent job of getting you to feel around and tap into your deeper purpose by asking lots of great questions and looking at things from all sorts of angles. Written in an easy to read, conversational tone, it’s like having a really really smart best friend sit down with you and help you figure out what the hell to do with your life.

Finding Your Own North Star

Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live
by Martha Beck

I’ve seen Martha speak and have read a lot of her stuff and really love her voice—so refreshing and brilliant and hilarious.
This book is awesome, really walks you through some good steps and asks some great questions to get you the clarity you seek. She’s big on looking past just what’s going on in your head and connecting with your body to get clarity and guidance from there as well. She’s had a super successful coaching institute for ages and is one of my favorites in the field.

Working

Working: People Talk About What They Do All Day and How They Feel About What They Do
by Studs Terkel

Back when I was flopping around trying to figure out what the hell to do with my life, I found it really helpful to look at how others were living to see if any of it sounded like it would be a good fit for me too. I found this book to be extremely enlightening, fun to read and fascinating. It’s basically a bunch of mini biographies that focus on the various lifestyles and occupations of the people interviewed. Pulling from all walks of life, it delves deep into the hopes, dreams and realities of the American public, focusing mostly on what they like and dislike about their chosen careers.

RELATIONSHIPS

Dear Lover

Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Enjoying Love’s Deepest Bliss
by David Deida

This one’s kind of out-there, but if you want to get in touch with what it really means to be a woman in a romatic relationship, I highly recommend it.

Deida writes it as a woman writing a letter to her lover (I know, weird, and it kind of is), but it’s deeply sensual in an opening-your-heart kind of way and is a really interesting approach to explaining femininity. It took me a while to be able to deal with it but once I did, I loved it. Guys should read it too if they want to understand the ladies better.

Getting to "I Do"

Getting to ‘I Do’: The Secret to Doing Relationships Right!
by Dr. Patricia Allen

I’m pretty sure I tore the cover off this one before carrying it around, but in spite of its totally unforgivable title, there’s some very eye-opening stuff in here about the nature of men and women and how differently we go about relationships. Written for women by someone who has coached thousands of happy couples into long-term relationships, it’s full of brilliant insights and tips on how to find and be in the relationship of your dreams. As with all this stuff, there will probably be parts you don’t agree with (she’s like a strict Christian mother on the sex issue), but it’s got lots of very valuable information and is definitely worth a read by both men and women.

Loving What Is

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
by Byron Katie

READ THIS BOOK. I demand it. It is the Holy Grail of being happy in your relationships. Based on what Katie calls “The Work”—which is essentially just asking yourself four simple, yet profound, questions—this book spends about ten pages walking you through the steps of The Work and a couple hundred on case studies. It’s basically like watching Katie perform her magic on all sorts of people, from those who’ve been brutally raped to people who’ve lost their children to those who want happier marriages. She walks them through her process and they suddenly find peace and freedom. It’s so cool AND The Work is a piece of cake. When you read it, I recommend reading the case studies first and then doing The Work on yourself instead of the other way around. Seeing her do it over and over will make it much easier for you to get better results when you try it on yourself.

The Way of the Superior Man

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
by David Deida
This book is made for a man, but the ladies must read it, too, if they really want to understand how men work. I thought it was brilliant and fascinating and explained SO much about the opposite sex that made me respect men even more. And the guys I’ve suggested it to said it was massively empowering. It speaks to, and explains, the highest version of masculinity, reminding us ladies why we love the fellas so much and reminding men how truly awesome they are/can be.

WEBSITES

AbrahamHicks.com

This is the website for Esther and Jerry Hicks, the folks who are all about channeling that Abraham guy. You can buy all their books and other products here as well as purchase one of my favorite guided meditations called, “Getting Into The Vortex.” The meditation set includes one general meditation, a manifesting money meditation, a good health meditation and a relationship meditation. Each is 15 minutes long and I highly recommend them. They also have free, daily reminders about the Law off Attraction that you can have emailed to you that I love. Not only is their stuff pretty direct and inspirational, but Esther’s lectures are also highly entertaining (I recommend you download all of those too) so I give these guys an A+.

 

ChrisGuillebeau.com

This guy is a massive world traveler, entrepreneur and the author of The Art of Noncomformity: Unconventional Strategies for Work, Life and Travel which I haven’t read but have heard great things about. I have, however, been all over his website and have been getting his emails and really like his spirit. He’s very DIY and edgy, writes about things like quitting your job and traveling the world, the best ways to rack up frequent flyer miles, how to stay focused, etc. A great site for the artist/adventurer who wants to blast out, see the world and live life on your own terms.

 

DailyOm.com

This site is packed with excellent resources, including guided meditations, online courses, books, DVDs, etc. and is super easy to navigate. The tone is very earnest and straightforward, however, so if you’re looking for something edgy, this ain’t the place, but it’s an awesome resource for all things self-helpful. It’s got great info as well as an online community if you’re looking to communicate with other peeps on a spiritual path. If you want a daily reminder on how to navigate life from your highest place, I recommend registering for Your Daily Om, which means you’ll receive an inspiring daily ditty about everything from forgiveness to meditation to getting healthy.

 

DeepakChopra.com

One of the godfathers of the self-help movement and one of my favorite writers/speakers on all things spiritual, Deepak’s website provides links to all his books, videos, events and YouTube channel as well as his advice column which is well worth checking out.

 

DrWayneDyer.com

Wayne’s another old school guy whose writing and speaking I really like but you, if you’re anything like me, have to get over the fact that he has a terrible habit of plastering his face on everything he sells. Still, he’s a great teacher and you can find all his products on his website. He also does a daily inspirational thing that you can sign up for.

 

TED.com/talks

TED stands for Technology, Entertainment and Design and is a nonprofit devoted to ideas worth spreading. Or at least that’s how they describe themselves. I’ve spent hours on this site watching talks from some of the most incredible people on everything from spirituality to creativity to medicine and have yet to see any real duds. Click on the Most Viewed talks and spend some time checking it out. They force everyone who speaks to do it in under twenty minutes so you don’t need a ton of time to get your mind blown.